tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post2464050167254709869..comments2024-03-05T11:36:50.299-05:00Comments on Stand and Deliver: Final reflectionsRixahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07908864785513937876noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-36657152060887858192012-11-13T11:37:12.946-05:002012-11-13T11:37:12.946-05:00Thank you very much for Inga's story and video...Thank you very much for Inga's story and video! I'm Geman and birthed 3 of my 4 kids unassisted. I'm having my own blog about (unasssisted) childbirth for German speaking people. I, too, got a lot of critics for in my eyes unimportant details when I posted my two birth videos on youtube. I've learned not to care about such comments. Mostly these people are either uninformed or ignorant. Still watching your video will help, teach and reassure many more people than you might think. Even if I get many stupid comments, too, I don't step back. Some things are worth standing for. And I'm giving birth standing. ;-)Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13936628479807805716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-72661896849994914922011-03-10T23:59:36.267-05:002011-03-10T23:59:36.267-05:00Wow! That was a long post! Sorry Hon! Much love!Wow! That was a long post! Sorry Hon! Much love!LisaJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09522420008436130132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-49455294899893917092011-03-10T23:47:14.885-05:002011-03-10T23:47:14.885-05:00Becoming Midwives is so right on with the statemen...Becoming Midwives is so right on with the statement that babies are so tender and soft, new, sensitive and most importantly deserving of gentle and loving care! After having Elizabeth the nurses wanted to do the PKU test the next day and I was not ready to go with her to the nursery at that moment because I wanted to shower first. So I made them wait, which ticked off the nurse. When we went into the nursery I began to nurse my sweet new baby and they pricked her heal and not the slightest whimper or jolt from my baby. They had to prick her again to get more blood as I was still nursing- again no response from Lizzie except wonderful nursing bliss. It made me happy. The nurse said to me that the reason they like the babies to get all worked up and cry is that they get more blood and don't have to poke them again! I was aghast! I said that even though they had to poke her twice it didn't bother her because she was distracted nursing and was happy. And I was glad she didn't cry and her happiness was more important than how many times they had to poke her. I also said that babies deserve kindness and making them or letting them go on crying was cruel. She then said "that's where we have a difference of opinion!" I promptly said "I'm glad we are going home in a few hours because I don't ever want you to touch my child again." And I never let her! I will point out that this was not a baby friendly certified hospital and i was doing a VBAC and our only BFH didn't have staffing to allow VBAC's so my midwife and I were forced to use the only major hospital in our area because it would allow VBACs. My second child was born at the baby friendly Pekin Hospital and they were wonderful very kind and my son never left my side! They did the PKU right in my room as I nursed him, not a peep from him or any flack from the nurses either! <br /> I love my children more than anything in this world. I never believed in love at first sight until I became a mother. I am so glad Inga has you for a mother because she deserves that gentleness! The kind sweet care your gave her shows the magnitude of your love and wonderful motherhood! And I feel bad for all babies who don't receive that came gentle care! Our Heavenly Father entrusts these special spirits into our lives and it is up to us to take care of them the way He would want us to, and I believe He was very pleased with your loving care for Inga!<br /> Safe return to Eric! But I can't help wishing it rains for the rest of his trip! LOL Hehe.LisaJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09522420008436130132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-64014239052532989012011-03-10T19:22:37.602-05:002011-03-10T19:22:37.602-05:00My last birth, my second planned UC ended up with ...My last birth, my second planned UC ended up with my unexpected 10 pounder stuck at the shoulders. I asked for my mother's help to resolve the very stuck shoulders and after lots of position changes and manipulation, my daughter was born. I have never written nor posted a birth story because I know many people would have negative comments about what happened. I see it as you did--a fact of the birth, nothing more. Additionally, I was prepared and dealt with it accordingly and in a calm fashion. <br /><br />Don't let anybody else drag you down. Your story is beautiful and another example of the falsehood that laboring/birthing women cannot act in any manner other than hysteria. Good for you, I say!Augustanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-65928851211296372092011-03-10T17:57:00.209-05:002011-03-10T17:57:00.209-05:00Some of the commenters might be interested in this...Some of the commenters might be interested in this: by a CNM also trained by Karen Strange, about a neonatal resus at a homebirth http://chicomidwife.blogspot.com/2011/03/first-breaths-of-life.htmlQoBnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-61231058507784389322011-03-10T17:01:02.129-05:002011-03-10T17:01:02.129-05:00Ugh, I'm so sorry about the bad formatting on ...Ugh, I'm so sorry about the bad formatting on my comment! :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-38492641668394634432011-03-10T16:59:15.275-05:002011-03-10T16:59:15.275-05:00I just posted a comment, but I think blogger ate i...I just posted a comment, but I think blogger ate it, let me try again:<br /><br />I never commented on your blog before but decided to for two reasons. First, to tell you that <br /><br />your posts about your daughter's birth were very informative and I'm shocked so many are <br /><br />criticizing you. I thought you looked like you knew what you were doing and were as in control <br /><br />of the situation as one can be. Also, as a person who is considering a home birth when I have a <br /><br />baby, it was a very good "lesson" on being prepared, remaining calm, trusting your instincts. <br /><br />You don't usually see this type of thing happening or being discussed and I like that it <br /><br />prepared me for the possibility of it happening.<br /><br />Second, I want to commend you for being honest and transparent. For allowing comments (even <br /><br />anonymous! I was shocked!) and "rude" discussions. I feel bloggers are overly sensitive these <br /><br />days and are quick to be offended by anyone not praising them, even if it was a polite comment <br /><br />or question that wasn't even disagreeing with them. <br /><br />I'm kind of tired of having to use an e-mail to comment on various blogs (sometimes you just <br /><br />want to be be anonymous!) or have my comment deleted just because I didn't say exactly what the <br /><br />person was hoping to hear, even though I was polite. Anyway, I just wanted to say I'm impressed <br /><br />and I hope you keep allowing this on you blog. Free speech is great.<br /><br />And finally, congratulations! You daughter is absolutely beautiful (as are your other children) <br /><br />and you seem to be a wonderful mother. That is all, sorry for the long comment! =)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-75987112574987407472011-03-10T16:49:05.962-05:002011-03-10T16:49:05.962-05:00Can I just start out by saying how amazing you wer...Can I just start out by saying how amazing you were. I watched your birth video and was in awe. I actually felt quite inadeqate after watching! <br /><br />We had a homebirth too...and our little man came out purple and limp after 3 hours of pushing. He was breathing...just no tone and a heart rate less than 100. I did try to stimuilate, but wish I had thought to do some mouth to mouth to stim him as well. Our midwives actually ended up cutting his cord after a few minutes, when he still wasn't pinking up and giving him some ppd. In retrospect, I wish I would have thought to do mouth to mouth. <br /><br />I don't know why anyone would come down on you. You were amazingly calm, and collected and knew just what to do. You should feel proud...very, very proud! <br />Thanks for sharing your beautiful birth with us all.RamosFamilyBloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01371675615079024767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-66226660618803478732011-03-10T16:31:50.775-05:002011-03-10T16:31:50.775-05:00I never commented on your blog before but decided ...I never commented on your blog before but decided to for two reasons. First, to tell you that your posts about your daughter's birth were very informative and I'm shocked so many are criticizing you. I thought you looked like you knew what you were doing and were as in control of the situation as one can be. Also, as a person who is considering a home birth when I have a baby, it was a very good "lesson" on being prepared, remaining calm, trusting your instincts. You don't usually see this type of thing happening or being discussed and I like that it prepared me for the possibility of it happening.<br /><br />Second, I want to commend you for being honest and transparent. For allowing comments (even anonymous! I was shocked!) and "rude" discussions. I feel bloggers are overly sensitive these days and are quick to be offended by anyone not praising them, even if it was a polite comment or question that wasn't even disagreeing with them. <br /><br />I'm kind of tired of having to use an e-mail to comment on various blogs (sometimes you just want to be be anonymous!) or have my comment deleted just because I didn't say exactly what the person was hoping to hear, even though I was polite. Anyway, I just wanted to say I'm impressed and I hope you keep allowing this on you blog. Free speech is great.<br /><br />And finally, congratulations! You daughter is absolutely beautiful (as are your other children) and you seem to be a wonderful mother. That is all, sorry for the long comment! =)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-82335536812350304962011-03-10T15:01:11.482-05:002011-03-10T15:01:11.482-05:00the arrival of Inga could have been my 1st daughte...the arrival of Inga could have been my 1st daughters' arrival! Yes, I had 2 midwife/friends there, I was a midwife with 10 years experience at that point, but as I pulled my limp dau to me I had the same instinctual, calm and direct response and action as Rixa did. A few puffs, some mucus wipe (dry birth, not water), another puff or two and rubbing, then a good cry cleared out her lungs and she pinked up and got vigorous. No drama, no other intervention, just love and gratitude she was earthside and healthy. altho her birth was long and arduous, not fast like Inga, I have noticed that babes who arrive quickly do tend to need a little extra energy sometimes.... LilyUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082050388848409048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-72061296379617099832011-03-10T14:25:51.859-05:002011-03-10T14:25:51.859-05:00What a lovely way to complete your thoughts and sh...What a lovely way to complete your thoughts and sharing about the small, yet important, part of the whole birth experience. What a great post by your friend!<br /><br />Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for sharing what you have about your birth, your postpartum experience so far (particularly the awesome shrinking belly pics), and this. You're an amazing lady.Torihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11901588112351881534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-66311442529894647932011-03-10T13:47:48.600-05:002011-03-10T13:47:48.600-05:00Rixa -- I've been mentioning your birth posts ...Rixa -- I've been mentioning your birth posts each day to Tom at dinner and yesterday he said he'd watched the videos at work (with the sound off) and he was just really impressed by how beautiful and matter of fact they were, and how well you handled everything. <br /><br />Yes, the resuscitation is just a small part, but it's a little scary for me to watch (so I'm saying I understand the interest it's drawn, even if not some of the conclusions some have made). I also couldn't watch the grunting and the fast breaths near the end without having an almost visceral reaction, remembering my last birth. <br /><br />Thanks again for sharing all of this. To have my husband on his own watch your video and to have both of us able to react how we do now, from where we were two years ago in our thinking -- it's miraculous! And so is baby Inga!<br /><br />Since I'm done (oh yes) I can't wait to share this with my daughters -- in about thirty years . . .Jane of Seagull Fountainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14842786356309158400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-20170271766295993762011-03-10T10:34:10.075-05:002011-03-10T10:34:10.075-05:00Rixa,
I have been a faithful reader / occasional ...Rixa, <br />I have been a faithful reader / occasional commenter for years now.<br />I watched your birth video and was awed and amazed and...wow, what a blessed baby girl is sweet Inga to have you as her mama. :)<br />All of this nonsense and criticism really amazes me. It reminds me of when I posted the video of my HBA3C, and I got people criticizing me, assuming I was some dumb schmuck that just woke up and decided to have a baby at home with no prior research, soul-searching, interviewing professionals in the field, etc. <br />And then I was criticized because I had started doing Ironman triathlons, because I obviously must have been neglecting my other kids to train and lose all the weight / get in shape, and criticized for waiting after SROM, even though I was vigilantly (almost obsessively) monitoring all vital signs of myself and baby. Heck...I was even criticized for having HEADPHONES IN during the birth!!! It was all completely crazy and I knew how far off base these faceless strangers were, but it still stung a little, mainly because I had no idea what would make someone want to be that critical of another's situation, knowing so little about the facts.<br />I think your instincts were spot on, you did exactly what you were supposed to do for Inga, even if it was completely counter to what the 'almighty flow chart' said (which it wasn't). I think that's how we have gotten ourselves (collective "we") in this birth mess to begin with. We've stopped respecting a mother's deep connection to her baby and her innate protective instincts, in favor of following charts, gauges, and timelines. <br />I know when I had my homebirth and my baby was "blue-ish", I instinctively placed my mouth over his mouth and nose and sucked really hard, getting a mouth full of mucous. He pinked up, started breathing and all was well. That wasn't something I had learned about or even seen before, but it was done almost reflexively, instinctively. I knew what he needed and I did it. Just as you did, through your NRP training as well as through the innate imprinting of mothering behaviors and instincts.<br />I wish you a beautiful, full babymoon with Inga and the rest of your family :)<br />Teresahbacmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17957344094267811726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-12118491471799096402011-03-10T09:14:00.688-05:002011-03-10T09:14:00.688-05:00Beautiful! I am so glad you have shared your full...Beautiful! I am so glad you have shared your full birth story with us all. We all learn and grow from all the experiences, lived or read and I am sure this has broadened the world for all of us. It truly reminds us to trust birth, ourselves and our babies. :-)Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09669787986340581561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-14400060628360164802011-03-10T08:33:20.957-05:002011-03-10T08:33:20.957-05:00Rixa, I didn't read all these comments you men...Rixa, I didn't read all these comments you mentioned where people were disappointed with your response to Inga's breathing trouble. Never even occurred to me anyone would be anything other than impressed with how you reacted! As a mother, former elementary teacher, aunt, sister and just generally someone who has seen emergencies among kids, I know the best thing is to stay calm and sometimes people view that as emotionless. <br /><br />I was impressed by your reaction, impressed that your husband stayed calm and trusted you, and encouraged to research and receive training in neonatal resuscitation myself. Never know if my next homebirth will be fast like yours! You've opened my eyes to one facet of homebirth I had not even researched or thought about yet! Years ago you taught me homebirth was wonderful and helped me on the path to my own. Now I think you will help my next one be a bit safer!!<br /><br />Thanks!Sarah A.T.J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10312464551659815062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-64823351177482374642011-03-10T07:50:20.669-05:002011-03-10T07:50:20.669-05:00yes. yes yes yes yes yes. been there. felt that. y...yes. yes yes yes yes yes. been there. felt that. yes.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05004659288503834211noreply@blogger.com