tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post6716788252339110034..comments2024-03-05T11:36:50.299-05:00Comments on Stand and Deliver: My birth planRixahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07908864785513937876noreply@blogger.comBlogger49125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-15603364815268078862013-03-28T00:11:38.309-04:002013-03-28T00:11:38.309-04:00Love the birth plan. I felt robbed during my firs...Love the birth plan. I felt robbed during my first birth by so many interventions.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17625889913458115063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-82504977113416090862012-05-31T12:16:07.709-04:002012-05-31T12:16:07.709-04:00I screamed at my midwife because she just was not ...I screamed at my midwife because she just was not following any of my plan. Got me a visit with the hospital shrink before I could leave.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01000700881846148080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-23136460948236233792012-05-31T00:52:21.790-04:002012-05-31T00:52:21.790-04:00This is an opinion based on the assumption that ev...This is an opinion based on the assumption that everything that comes standard in L&D is necessary. Which is not. And if you're saying you should only birth your baby at the hospital if you're willing to spread your legs and follow all the rules for their sake, then you're right. We shouldn't be there, and that's the exact reason more and more women are choosing to birth outside of hospitals. We don't birth for your convenience.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-4040793935888206562012-05-30T17:48:50.056-04:002012-05-30T17:48:50.056-04:00I've been reading a lot of birth stories today...I've been reading a lot of birth stories today and I think I was a bit harsh in my last comment. I do think you still come off as arrogant in the way you worded it, but many of the things you said are things that I think I'd like to have happen in my own births: being allowed privacy, being able to move around, not having unnecessary procedures done, keeping everything calm, etc. I hope I'm able to talk to my doctors about this and feel that they support me in this decision (I'd talk about this on the first appointments so I'd have time to find a new doctor if I needed) and that I do value and respect the years of training and hard work they've gone through to help mothers have safe, happy birth experiences. They feel a lot of pressure themselves, too. Hospitals are sued all the time for things that often aren't their fault. They have to do all sorts of things to make sure that they're safe legally, and it scares them when a patient doesn't want those things done. I hope I can have a good experience with my doctors (or whatever medical personnel there are) this way.Angela Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02812795184595491517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-9964919863271822022012-05-29T02:10:02.746-04:002012-05-29T02:10:02.746-04:00I find the last plan extremely arrogant. It may wo...I find the last plan extremely arrogant. It may work for you since you have had other children and your subsequent births may be predictable, but you are being very inconsiderate of the hospital staff. They are dedicated to helping mothers give birth and also concerned about liability issues if something goes wrong, and your demands for them to stay away denies them both of those things. I don't see why you go to a hospital at all if you refuse to let them help you. I can only assume it's in case of emergency, and if that happens, I hope you have the sense to throw your birth plan out the window if an emergency arises.Angela Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02812795184595491517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-5554987950445426462012-05-28T08:10:04.994-04:002012-05-28T08:10:04.994-04:00with my first, being a nurse I assumed I needed no...with my first, being a nurse I assumed I needed no plan...ended up SVD with epidural, pitocin and antibiotics... and a rough start breastfeeding. With my second I wrote no birth plan, but it was like this:<br /><br />Have baby without pain medication. Breastfeed as soon as possible. <br />Took Bradley classes and picked a great obstetrician that my Bradley teacher liked. It worked! They don't have to be complicated to work.Mariannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02941188652428709747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-11976575998511790892012-03-16T22:07:13.106-04:002012-03-16T22:07:13.106-04:00As a hospital-based obstetrician, I believe more i...As a hospital-based obstetrician, I believe more in a statement of values than a plan for birth. I think an ideal statement of values from a patient would read:<br /><br />The birth of my child will undoubtedly represent an incredible, life-changing event. I am incredibly grateful to birth in a setting with a safe water supply, clean conditions, timely access to life-saving surgery, available blood products, antibiotics, IV medications and expertly trained medical personnel. I am here as the key member of my health care team--and I would like to actively engage in making decisions regarding my health and the health of my baby. I expect our interactions to be defined by respect, professionalism, and compassion. I accept responsibility for my own decisions; I acknowledge your roles as physician and nursing advisors. At any time, I am free to ask for a second opinion, decline an intervention, or exit your care setting. In the rare event of incapacitation due to emergent circumstances, I appoint __________ to serve as my decision maker.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-86419007954061343542012-01-16T02:30:12.102-05:002012-01-16T02:30:12.102-05:00YES! Perfect and right to the point. Any of the ex...YES! Perfect and right to the point. Any of the extra details can be covered by the first line on the hospital birth version.<br /><br />I had something similar written out, though longer and more detailed. Of course, no one bothered to read it (though they said they did.) Boy, were they surprised to have me refuse everything they attempted to hook me up to. They were even more freaked out when I said, "Baby's coming!", pushed three times, and there he was (in caul) on the bed. Apparently, I was just the lady in labor and really had no idea when the baby would come. I guess I was supposed to wait for them to tell me when he would be delivered! And, I swear, the OB nearly passed out while waiting for me to OK cutting the cord. (And the poor pediatric nurses. They wanted to bathe my little guy so badly. They weren't very happy about my refusing. That, and the vax and the bottles and the pacifier - they thought I was a nut.) <br />Now, I had gone into the hospital thinking that I couldn't be the ONLY pregnant lady in town who wanted a natural birth. Surely, they must have run into a few others who thought of birth as a natural experience rather than a serious medical condition. Guess not! I even had nurses from other floors come to meet "the lady who gave birth on her own" the next day. It was kinda weird, to say the least.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07335982303703120909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-91985203201912149762011-12-19T18:06:28.319-05:002011-12-19T18:06:28.319-05:00Tough lady.
When I am pregnant and about to go in...Tough lady. <br />When I am pregnant and about to go into labor I am going to say the moment I walk into the hospital- "Where can I get my epidural before the huge contractions start? Thanks... Oh, and can you go get a wheel chair? Yep. Awesome." <br />Makay<br />www.thebirdssay.blogspot.comKyla Makayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06994871816020040088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-39549854563424109452011-07-24T09:24:25.826-04:002011-07-24T09:24:25.826-04:00I'd add "no coached pushing- the baby and...I'd add "no coached pushing- the baby and I can figure it out"<br />I hate coached pushing or "purple pushing". I told my husband "it's like someone yelling tips while you are pooping- distracting and usually counterproductive"elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05696241309160847537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-13916897682107444082011-06-14T13:30:50.055-04:002011-06-14T13:30:50.055-04:00I love this! I love the way the hospital plan just...I love this! I love the way the hospital plan just tells what you WILL do, not what you hope they will "let" you do. Very empowering. It's YOUR birth, whether at home or the hospital.Terri LaPointnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-9839644158815531912011-03-17T00:25:46.795-04:002011-03-17T00:25:46.795-04:00Best. Birth plan. EVER.
Made me laugh so much :) T...Best. Birth plan. EVER.<br />Made me laugh so much :) Thanks for posting this!!Alexandranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-22527366279712213452011-03-14T21:50:00.700-04:002011-03-14T21:50:00.700-04:00Haha Couldn't have said it better!Haha Couldn't have said it better!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04284265657553153315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-53478408427876068862011-03-05T04:50:29.243-05:002011-03-05T04:50:29.243-05:00Lovely. Pretty much what I tell my clients. But ...Lovely. Pretty much what I tell my clients. But I think, if you don't mind, that I will print out a copy for myself and put it in my examples file. :D<br /><br />Talk to me and treat me with respect! Perfect!<br /><br />Mars<br />(MammyDoula)Marshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11137777574651762274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-3131303940554278622011-02-17T19:21:34.719-05:002011-02-17T19:21:34.719-05:00you go, girl! Awesome!you go, girl! Awesome!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-65206897289672129842011-02-14T20:55:31.469-05:002011-02-14T20:55:31.469-05:00Hospital nurse here too, I truly love when a patie...Hospital nurse here too, I truly love when a patient shows up knowing what they want. I try my best to accommodate everything that I can. I feel it is my job to get to know the patient and see what it is THEY want. It is so great to think about these things coming in. You would be surprised at the vast array of attitudes patients have from what your desires are up through "do whatever, just get the baby out however, and don't think about sticking that baby on my chest until you clean it up first!" I am all about lights low and quiet guidance with pushing as needed, some women like to be yelled at while pushing . . . it motivates them . . .but for me to assume everyone wants one way is arrogant and disrespectful of the individual patients I take care of. I would love to work in a birthing center that always allowed for such individualized care, but we are bound by certain regulations in most hospitals. It bugs me that the stats show that continuous monitoring does not improve outcomes and results in higher rates of c-section. I don't know why our area of medicine is so dense at times except for the liability/bottom line. Kudos for you and your plan! Best of luck for a delivery just like you plan, enjoy your blessing!Kristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14687122125773996258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-20656661759155039382011-02-14T20:35:51.196-05:002011-02-14T20:35:51.196-05:00WONDERFUL birth plan. You sound a lot like me in l...WONDERFUL birth plan. You sound a lot like me in labor. I think I'll have to come up with something similarly to-the-point for this next baby (currently 9 weeks, so I've got some time).Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02717668814070848449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-41048906252845974502011-02-12T02:14:02.310-05:002011-02-12T02:14:02.310-05:00Awesome! Took me a minute to figure out what Capt...Awesome! Took me a minute to figure out what Captain Morgan style was, but once I did, it made me laugh.Job 77https://www.blogger.com/profile/11794109256137954188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-61852590736100325372011-02-09T22:52:33.001-05:002011-02-09T22:52:33.001-05:00As a hospital nurse... I want to say thank you fo...As a hospital nurse... I want to say thank you for posting this.. seriously...<br /> This. Is. Awesome.<br />Thank you!<br /> I think the issue of respect is one of the top items lacking from the hosp staff causing birth plans to be looked at with ridicule and scorn. That and control.<br />We've seen that there are many individuals who do not have access to services freely allowing them the autonomy they deserve with their birth. This is how it is where I live and work.. While we work to improve our services.. I hope the women out there who wish to experience certain types of things with their hospital birth... when there is no other option...Please communicate this over and over. If you hit a roadblock- there has to be SOMETHING else, some other option that may be acceptable to you. <br />I hope soStorkStorieshttp://obnurse35yrs.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-32524677949746284812011-02-09T20:01:42.543-05:002011-02-09T20:01:42.543-05:00I couldn't have said it better myself! :) So...I couldn't have said it better myself! :) So awesome.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01204165336026137996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-77810288739025111812011-02-09T16:28:42.747-05:002011-02-09T16:28:42.747-05:00This is awesome. I can't wait to hear your bi...This is awesome. I can't wait to hear your birth story.Rachaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00318376427752604367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-76978767337725897492011-02-09T13:49:34.205-05:002011-02-09T13:49:34.205-05:00I had a similar birth plan for #3 in hospital and ...I had a similar birth plan for #3 in hospital and it went pretty ok but #4 was born at home, so. :)<br /><br />Love it. Thanks to Staci for passing this along!<br /><br />StephStephanie Wilson she/her @babystephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02703122439142892617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-5654442552154299822011-02-09T13:29:42.066-05:002011-02-09T13:29:42.066-05:00LOVE this. It made me smile. :DLOVE this. It made me smile. :DStacihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14720879744826691711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-55090653296095882132011-02-07T09:51:41.137-05:002011-02-07T09:51:41.137-05:00Perfect. Just perfect.Perfect. Just perfect.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02126417959697476009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-56186040440216489392011-02-07T08:15:11.359-05:002011-02-07T08:15:11.359-05:00Captain Morgan style makes me LOL so much. Love th...<em>Captain Morgan style</em> makes me LOL so much. Love this.Oliviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01828516083662339236noreply@blogger.com