tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post8932898830406719194..comments2024-03-05T11:36:50.299-05:00Comments on Stand and Deliver: The babymoon is overRixahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07908864785513937876noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-18826171183635052272011-03-18T23:13:37.067-04:002011-03-18T23:13:37.067-04:00To the ER nurse above: how many dead babies did yo...To the ER nurse above: how many dead babies did you see from "SIDS" who slept in cribs? It was called "crib death" for a reason - more babies die in cribs than sleeping with their parents. The death of a baby is unfortunate no matter how it happens. But mothers have been safely sleeping with their babies for thousands of years. These new-fangled cribs, however, have seen an increase in infant mortality rates due to the separation of mother and baby.Crystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04924547135832666906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-23769077304401941462011-03-18T22:32:05.087-04:002011-03-18T22:32:05.087-04:00to the above poster, as tragic as two dead infants...to the above poster, as tragic as two dead infants are, that isn't necessarily an indication of cosleeping being high risk. in any case, most cases of parents suffocating babies in their sleep involve intoxicated parents, or parents who fell asleep with baby on a couch or other unsafe sleeping spot.Marwahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11064470576241506770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-6127607305031610932011-03-18T17:36:49.077-04:002011-03-18T17:36:49.077-04:00I am an ER nurse and have seen two dead infants in...I am an ER nurse and have seen two dead infants in the last three years from being suffocated by sleeping parents.<br /><br />IT IS NOT SAFE to sleep with your baby.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-44557165595205375792011-03-17T14:02:47.462-04:002011-03-17T14:02:47.462-04:00I understand your feelings about school. Whenever ...I understand your feelings about school. Whenever I think about home school I feel completely overwhelmed just by the idea of it. I have two school-age children and one who will be ready for Kindergarten in the fall. We sent our kids to public school until this year when we started the transition to a charter school. Our oldest is at the charter school this year and we anticipate having all 3 of our school children in the charter school by fall. So far I'm very impressed with the school, and I feel there's a better system there. The kids, parents, and teachers involved are more invested in the education and there's better support and communication in comparison with public school. Unlike private school there's no cost involved, but they ask the parents to contribute volunteer hours. It helps keep the parents and school better connected. I'm glad we have options between regular public school and home school. With 5 kids 10 and under I'm grateful I don't have to do everything myself. Best wishes with whatever you decide to do!Cherylynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10683110268816902044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-6627698284530613402011-03-17T13:38:11.367-04:002011-03-17T13:38:11.367-04:00When I say hold Inga, that includes in a sling...I...When I say hold Inga, that includes in a sling...I love using a sling, but it's still harder to get things done with a baby in a sling, versus no baby and no sling! <br /><br />Zari is just 4 and wouldn't be starting kindergarten until fall 2012. I haven't decided if we're going to homeschool or public school. Lots of fence-sitting for me right now, and frankly neither option is very appealing.Rixahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07908864785513937876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-63459053646009115662011-03-17T12:56:55.533-04:002011-03-17T12:56:55.533-04:00I don't think I expressed myself right...if In...I don't think I expressed myself right...if Inga is in sleepers or pajama type outfits, Zari might be resisting getting dressed because Inga gets lots of attention and she doesn't get "dressed".<br />I also second the wool covers! Awesome things!<br />And...are you homeschooling Zari? You've never mentioned any school, and she's 5? That would mean kindergarten here, even grade 1 depending on when the birthday is (both my girls' birthdays are in Nov, so they started JK when they were 3).TracyKMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07498896222222982320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-4167483009434183642011-03-17T12:42:22.800-04:002011-03-17T12:42:22.800-04:00I'm really surprised to read that you were hav...I'm really surprised to read that you were having to hold Inga, instead of wear her.<br />I also agree to relax your expectations of Zari. If she wants to run around in pajamas, what's wrong with that? <br />My mantra for a long time when the kids seem to do something for negative attention (intentional or not), "I will not engage". State the issue, state a solution or two, state a consequence/result, and then leave it alone.<br />Also, does Inga get "dressed" or is she in sleepers? Maybe Zari can help get her dressed in 'real' clothes and then Inga can help Zari :)TracyKMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07498896222222982320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-45317897962722830222011-03-16T23:42:40.941-04:002011-03-16T23:42:40.941-04:00Rixa, I just want to say that I think you're d...Rixa, I just want to say that I think you're doing such an amazing job making the difficult transition from two to three children.<br />I was wondering about Zari and dressing. Does she really *need* to get dressed by a certain time, or at all? If you aren't going anywhere that particular day, would it be acceptable to allow her to be in control of this one small aspect of her life, when so many other things may seem out of her control right now? It just seems like it may be potentially a "small thing" that feels like a "big thing" unnecessarily. And by the time this newborn period is over, so may her resistance to dressing be over :-). I wish you well however you decide to work through it all.hbacmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17957344094267811726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-28603035673939344502011-03-16T20:07:20.389-04:002011-03-16T20:07:20.389-04:00I was just coming in to suggest what K La did - wh...I was just coming in to suggest what K La did - why not just let Zari sleep in her clothes? That way no one has to deal with anything in the morning except maybe putting on socks.<br /><br />I instituted something when #2 was born where every night before DD's bedtime I would sit with her on the rocker and just talk to her - tell her how special she is and how much I love her and what an amazing big sister she is, etc. I really felt like it made a huge difference in her ability to cope with the baby, and even to this day she has never said anything negative about him. (I'm just waiting for the day he crawls around and takes her stuff!)Meredithnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-31320589875622914112011-03-16T16:25:36.461-04:002011-03-16T16:25:36.461-04:00You are such an awesome mom.
My nephew hated get...You are such an awesome mom. <br /><br />My nephew hated getting dressed in the morning and then realized that if he wore his school clothes to bed (minutes shoes) the night before, he could just wake up and go to school. Not very fashionable, but it works. :) <br /><br />We use disposables at night too! I'm so glad I'm not the only one! Reading the comments made me feel like there is a whole community of CD by day and sposies by night people!!K Lahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08783061197232750439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-63458007218180061442011-03-16T15:45:37.227-04:002011-03-16T15:45:37.227-04:00I third the opinion of going with a wool soaker. ...I third the opinion of going with a wool soaker. :O)<br /><br />Thank you for responding to my question about your sleeping arrangement. From this description, it sounds just how I do it. I always thought that when mothers were talking about their babies sleeping in the crook of their arm, that they were literally sleeping with their head right on top of the elbow or something like that. My arm is right above baby's head with the blankets held back by the other arm just like you described. :O)Crystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04924547135832666906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-10086541771444140962011-03-16T14:58:12.559-04:002011-03-16T14:58:12.559-04:00My girls (3) all had breastmilk and periods after ...My girls (3) all had breastmilk and periods after birth! My last girl had rock hard clogged ducts under both nipples, but they didn't seem to trouble her. My newest (boy) is having a "period" too!<br /><br />About the clogged duct, though, in case you haven't tried it, you could try warm compresses and cold pressed castor oil a few times a day. I know warm compresses helped my clogged ducts feel relieved when I've had that problem a number of times.<br /><br />I'm sure other essential oils could help, but Cold Pressed Castor Oil is SO easy on new skin.... Just a suggestion of something I would use (and have) for various topical applications on newborns. I'm totally not a doc or anything, just relating what's worked for me.<br /><br />Of course, you probably know all about these. :) Cause you ROCK!Torihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11901588112351881534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-24744266507216650882011-03-16T09:43:23.889-04:002011-03-16T09:43:23.889-04:00Glad I'm not the only one that dreads dressing...Glad I'm not the only one that dreads dressing my little ones in the morning! My 5 yr old is the worst! I put his underwear on and then he darts off to find something he MUST have! He comes back and I am barely able to get his shirt on and then he's off at full speed again.... I just try to remind myself that someday, when he's away at college, I'll miss that little guy that could run at the speed of light!! Best of luck!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-71680368615096160122011-03-16T09:21:19.095-04:002011-03-16T09:21:19.095-04:00How about getting the advice of a pediatrician abo...How about getting the advice of a pediatrician about that plugged duct?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-34984887853849241622011-03-16T08:55:48.740-04:002011-03-16T08:55:48.740-04:00I'm going to agree with a pp recommendation of...I'm going to agree with a pp recommendation of wool for overnight!! In fact, my little guy is just 7 months old and we had to put disposables on him for overnight for a week and he leaked every.single.night (I even tried a couple different sizes that I had kicking around from my oldest). Very annoying. He's back in a cloth fitted (I use S'Bish bamboo) w/ a wool cover and there is not a leak to be found. You just need to lanolize the wool (very easy). It's awesome. And breathable. And awesome. Seriously.<br /><br />I haven't commented yet, but congratulations on the birth of your daughter Inga!! She's beautiful :)Wendynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-56004485648294510832011-03-15T22:49:41.631-04:002011-03-15T22:49:41.631-04:00For a plugged duct of my own I have use warm casto...For a plugged duct of my own I have use warm castor oil compresses. I put it on at night under a Nirsing bra with a plastic baggie between the compress and my bra, the next morning it's gone!!! I would HIGHLY recommend trying something like this for your little one! If nothing else maybe just rubbing some castor oil on the skin a few times a day!?Steena Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06748243272917962171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-49413918546026711642011-03-15T21:57:04.742-04:002011-03-15T21:57:04.742-04:00I used to use the 'if you don't get dresse...I used to use the 'if you don't get dressed i will take you out as you are' approach and then follow through. Only once got to school in the pyjamas.foodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02189464300706998490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-13446944099630996502011-03-15T21:16:29.717-04:002011-03-15T21:16:29.717-04:00My daughther got mastitis when she was about 4 mon...My daughther got mastitis when she was about 4 monthhs old. We tried to wait it out but once she started running a low-grade fever and she started to have red streaking around it the doctor said it was time to try antibiotics. It cleared up very quickly.<br /><br />I'm glad you worked out Inga's sleeping issues. Rest, too often after a baby is born, is like an old friend you don't see often enough.<br /><br />I hope everything turns out well with Zari, I'm sure it'll pass (not that it makes it any easier now.)Ryannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18113208893129663595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-60937260356167319732011-03-15T20:23:45.236-04:002011-03-15T20:23:45.236-04:00My 4 yr old doesn't dress himself and makes us...My 4 yr old doesn't dress himself and makes us chase him around the house to get dressed. We're struggling with the negative behaviour too - too much scolding going on in this house some days and it is exhausting and frustrating.<br /><br />Go with the disposables at night, it will let you get more uninterrupted sleep and saves you from extra washing of blankets and sheets.Bnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-60997285710625653012011-03-15T18:54:11.741-04:002011-03-15T18:54:11.741-04:00My 4 year old boy- every single time I want him to...My 4 year old boy- every single time I want him to get dressed, it has to be a game where I count and see how fast he can put on each article of clothing... It's really amazing... It takes about 15 seconds for him to put on his pants when I'm counting, and 45 minutes for him to put them on when I'm not. ;)Sarah N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07158858477276728081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-76094740085498460592011-03-15T16:55:00.517-04:002011-03-15T16:55:00.517-04:00I have been sorely tempted by disposables at night...I have been sorely tempted by disposables at night, but we tried doubling up the diapers (not sure of the terminology - we use a system in which there is a fleece layer between baby's bottom and the diaper) and that's worked very well. At this point, I'm more tempted to use a disposable when we go out, especially if she hasn't had a BM yet that day. <br /><br />About the Zari's behavior, she sounds a lot like my 5-year-old, and the negative-behavior-yielding-negative-attention cycle can be bad - pretty self-reinforcing. Keeping my son in preschool helped because he had opportunities to just do his 5-year-old stuff without getting shushed and scolded. And when I'm able to give him attention and hugs BEFORE he starts acting up, that helps. But sometimes the baby needs stuff, and he has to wait. I understand why it's hard for him, and I try to tell him that sometimes it's hard for me too! <br /><br />And having to nag him - like telling him five times to put his socks on and he still doesn't put his socks on! - that drives me nuts. Very hard to keep my patience at those times.chingonanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-80505897107176473282011-03-15T16:38:33.590-04:002011-03-15T16:38:33.590-04:00You need some wool! I've always used wool at n...You need some wool! I've always used wool at night and never had leaks, even with supersoaker boys. With a newborn, you can get a wool sleepsack and put that over a wool soaker with a nice thick diaper underneath. BULLETPROOF! Felted or crocheted wool is best for nighttime, knit not so good unless you double it up with something else (like the sleepsack and soaker option). I've never had luck keeping AIOs or pockets leak-free, so wool is the best way to go IMO!<br /><br />I just bought a crochet wool soaker at a thrift store today for 25 cents. It looks to be about small size, so maybe too big for Inga yet, but would you like me to send it to you?Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17475112158639748154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-1883645975484098612011-03-15T16:35:46.908-04:002011-03-15T16:35:46.908-04:00I'm sure you'll get lots of wonderful advi...I'm sure you'll get lots of wonderful advice. The thing I found that worked with my middle child, after his baby sister was born.. was hold him *often*. Any time I wasn't holding the baby, I'd ask him to be close to me, or anytime I was holding the baby and could manage the both of them at once (Like on the couch). <br /><br />Give as much positive attention as you can, cooking with them, doing laundry with them (not sure if your kids like that, but mine find it a treat, for now.) Any little thing you can do to include her and praise her while she's doing it. <br /><br />Eventually W. learned that he was still mommy's special boy and that mommy could love lots of kiddos at once.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-78414272819261478362011-03-15T16:28:52.518-04:002011-03-15T16:28:52.518-04:00The getting dressed issue has nothing to do with p...The getting dressed issue has nothing to do with pickiness over clothes, unfortunately. Zari doesn't really care yet what she wears. The battle is just getting her to DO it. I hate nagging her, and we've tried so many things that work for a few weeks and then lose their charm. Maybe the candy idea will work--immediate reward, positive reinforcement. I'll have to give it a try.Rixahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07908864785513937876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-70371101300630837832011-03-15T16:15:09.674-04:002011-03-15T16:15:09.674-04:00That bag idea is pure genius! My daughter isn'...That bag idea is pure genius! My daughter isn't all that choosy yet, but I can see the day is coming.<br /><br />Rixa, when I cloth diapered, I always, always used a disposable at night. You are right - the lure of uninterrupted sleep WAS too powerful to make me want to do anything else. Don't feel guilty - feel RESTED!!! :P<br /><br />Hahaha!!! the word verification is "driest." That's great! :)Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16703334707738126703noreply@blogger.com