tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post468177222520306868..comments2024-03-05T11:36:50.299-05:00Comments on Stand and Deliver: Tandem nursingRixahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07908864785513937876noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-78542122752405284082009-10-08T00:58:58.619-04:002009-10-08T00:58:58.619-04:00Your post made me set down and think. I tandem nur...Your post made me set down and think. I tandem nursed my two ones. My oldest right through the pregnancy and after for a year. And then my second for her own a year and half after that. It was a strange, missing and liberating feeling when it finally came to an end. 4 and 1/2 years of nursing was an experience for sure.Rhiannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10646542743715978100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-1393143720600822352009-07-20T02:20:54.782-04:002009-07-20T02:20:54.782-04:00I nursed through my 2nd pregnancy even though in m...I nursed through my 2nd pregnancy even though in my 3rd trimester there were times I wanted to tear my hair out because it was so uncomfortable. I read "Adventures in Tandem Nursing" which made it all sound like so much fun...I tried a few times to nurse both kidlets at the same time (20 months apart) but I did not enjoy it. I was fretting over how/when to wean my toddler when I got unexpectedly pregnant with #3 - no way was I going to be able to tolerate pregnancy and nursing two kids. Plus I knew ds2 (5 months at the time) would need all the milk he could get before my supply went south...<br /><br />I'm totally about extended nursing, but it wasn't a great experience for me. I was well-supported by my husband and peers. I just found it too uncomfortable.Kellynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-10527373861923722982009-07-11T22:11:09.256-04:002009-07-11T22:11:09.256-04:00if i had only known one person who tandem nursed, ...if i had only known one person who tandem nursed, i would have! as it was, i let my 14 month old wean sometime in the second trimester. i have often regretted not encouraging him to continue and tandem nursing, but i really had no one else to look to for advice. since then, i have met several people (in real life and via internet) that have done/are doing it. i am nursing my 19 month old who shows no signs of stopping. i love it except for at night time.Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16863968170470218136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-36620285575703913632009-07-10T23:46:42.380-04:002009-07-10T23:46:42.380-04:00My 2 year old weaned because of decreased supply a...My 2 year old weaned because of decreased supply and horrible biting when she was 12 months old (a decision that was very difficult and sad for me). A YEAR later, when the twins were 7 months old, she asked to nurse again! And she does nurse a little bit, every few days. It's so nice that it didn't end on the sour note that the biting and bleeding and crying caused when she was still such a baby. <br /><br />I think it weirds my husband out just a bit. But he's so used to toddlers climbing all over me to nurse at this point (the twins are acrobatic these days) that it's just old hat at this point? They are my last, I may never wean. ;)Intertwinedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17779457179895017338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-12751785893391341242009-07-10T20:51:03.324-04:002009-07-10T20:51:03.324-04:00My first two tamdom nursed (23 1/2 months apart in...My first two tamdom nursed (23 1/2 months apart in age). However, my second born weaned on her own around 18 months (about the same time her older brother finally gave it up). I always credited my son's stubborn determination for why he persisted through months of low milk supply to tandem nurse. I don't think it would have been the same if my daughter had been born first. But it sure was helpful to have a toddler to help pull off some of the milk because I usually make a lot and get engorged easily. <br />But it's been a while since I've heard from anyone else who has tandem nursed...I'm glad to see I'm not the only one. :)Angoraknitterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15352728587683485241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-88159500205653244702009-07-10T20:10:14.099-04:002009-07-10T20:10:14.099-04:00I just wanted to thank you for sharing your husban...I just wanted to thank you for sharing your husband's trepidation about your extended nursing of Zari. It seems like most people I know through LLL and blogs who are nursing toddlers have husbands who are behind it 100%. Mine has been supportive, but is getting more uncomfortable with it as we approach her second birthday. I don't have any advice or anything... just a little empathy for you! :^)Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16791126107024875704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-27221889359831090952009-07-10T18:22:10.131-04:002009-07-10T18:22:10.131-04:00Thanks for posting this. I was very curious about ...Thanks for posting this. I was very curious about your experience. My husband says absolutely NO tandem nursing, but I am 8 weeks pregnant and still nursing my 24-month old, so we'll see. :) So far, I haven't had much pain or discomfort, but my milk has decreased down to almost nothing (except for first thing in the morning). I thought that would end it for my daughter, but she is still interested. Thank so much for sharing!KelliAnn Christensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16583502121043504321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-62667706993076603652009-07-10T13:41:22.841-04:002009-07-10T13:41:22.841-04:00I've tandem nursed twice. Six seems to be the ...I've tandem nursed twice. Six seems to be the age when my children wean. I see quite a bit of tandem nursing in my practice. More than one would imagine. Thanks for this post.Denise Punger MD IBCLChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15005314822461783855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-79225483627424147612009-07-10T12:32:42.410-04:002009-07-10T12:32:42.410-04:00Well, tell Eric that they really, really do stop n...Well, tell Eric that they really, really do stop nursing...and all those attachement philosophies such as attached kids will be independant, NOT dependant, its all true stuff. <br /><br />i am tandem nursing a 3 1/2 year old and a 13 month old. It was alwasy annoying during pregnancy but it was the only time during pregnancy when I could lie down and stop chasing toddlers -- when they would agree to nurse! <br /><br />It is a cuddly time that seems long and then boom its over and it was short. I promise you. My Mickey and Casey are such big, big boys now and it was literally just a couple of years ago that they were nurslings...its normal, its nice, its cozy, and keep it up. <br /><br />I never did have a big "you are weaned now" event with any of the kids...its truly did just taper off. and for the record, the weaned ones (3 out of 5 of them now) were all just shy of their fifth birthdays. Seems insane/never planned it...but no regrets. <br />: )<br /><br />and its totally ok to say not right now --alot--I tell Charlie no to "nursies" many many times a day.Housefairyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07158143680987249710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-30679724683006820282009-07-10T11:47:19.755-04:002009-07-10T11:47:19.755-04:00I was planning to tandem nurse, but in the first t...I was planning to tandem nurse, but in the first trimester I had overwhelming feelings of wanting to "run away and never breastfeed again" at every feeding, and I decided to listen to them and wean over a period of a few weeks. I admire anyone who can stick it through and tandem nurse.Peggyhttp://crazybutable.com/zateraul/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-60460576554982917492009-07-10T11:07:47.782-04:002009-07-10T11:07:47.782-04:00Roan would squeeze my breast for me when I was nur...Roan would squeeze my breast for me when I was nursing Willem. it was really sweet. <br />and once when I was pumping, I wasn't paying attention and he pushed the pump handle for me and it startled me. It was quite funny. He enjoyed pushing the handle, he felt like it was something important, made him feel like he was apart of it all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-2239663639409960702009-07-10T09:37:06.535-04:002009-07-10T09:37:06.535-04:00I am all in favor of nursing toddlers. Hey "m...I am all in favor of nursing toddlers. Hey "milk is good food." And many Mother's of toddlers are constantly worried about their eating habits. If they are nursing a couple of times a day, you know they are getting some good nutrition. <br /><br />Also when our society gets comfortable breast feeding toddlers, they will definitely be comfortable with breast feeding infants....I don't see any down side to it.pinkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00198277802918823591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-65071748925401037812009-07-10T06:59:37.081-04:002009-07-10T06:59:37.081-04:00I wrote a blog post a while ago about tandem nursi...I wrote a blog post a while ago about tandem nursing & colostrum, and interestingly, a lot of searches come my way because of it (http://www.birthingyourbaby.com/2008/07/tandem-nursing-and-colostrum.html)... it always makes me hope I've encouraged someone! <br /><br />I got pregnant with my son when my daughter was ~26 months old, and nursed thru the pregnancy (like you, only tender/uncomfortable, with a major supply decrease). I did use the time to get my daughter down from nursing a bunch of times a day to wake-up, nap, post-nap, and bedtime. By the time my son arrived, it was mostly just at wake-up (she was a month from three). We tandem nursed for a year, but almost never at the same time. I loved being able to do that for her. My milk came in very soon, with no engorgement, and I didn't leak like I did with her (for a full year!), so that was nice for me. My son is now four, and weaned a few days before his birthday. I really treasure the years I nursed my babies/little kids!Christina Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07306270873555761215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-34971551681932423492009-07-10T02:16:26.223-04:002009-07-10T02:16:26.223-04:00Your experiences are very similar to mine. I was s...Your experiences are very similar to mine. I was surprised to end up tandem nursing as it wasn't really my plan. It just sorta happened. I'm still nursing my almost 4 year old and my 15 month old. I'm not sure the first-born is ever going to give it up as long as her brother is still nursing. I had read a few things, but not much at all, about tandem nursing and everything talked about how close it made the kids. I haven't experienced that though and was surprised at how tough it has been at times. The first couple of months were very rough with the first-born wanting to nurse ALL THE TIME. Now, she still wants to nurse a lot and there is some jealousy involved despite special cuddles and mommy-time. I've put some boundaries around it because I'm pretty ready to be done with nursing her. I have very different feelings about nursing her vs. nursing my now-toddler. Thanks for sharing your experiences. Its great to know my experience isn't completely weird. BTW, I don't tell anyone IRL that I'm still nursing the oldest child...I've gotten real criticism. Luckily, DH completely supports our extended nursing. Oh yeah, and I really disliked the handful of times I've nursed both at the same time. Makes me feel a bit like an animal with a litter.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-74331539443310780962009-07-10T01:14:33.302-04:002009-07-10T01:14:33.302-04:00Thanks for posting this. I too am continuing to n...Thanks for posting this. I too am continuing to nurse North through a pregnancy and hopefully beyond. So far, we both have been able to adjust our nursing needs in a positive manner. I feel positive he and I will continue to do well with the added bonus of a newborn and more milk! I also felt the nipple tenderness throughout the pregnancy and was able to night-wean North so that I was more comfortable. I am very appriciative to North that he was able to take the change in a such a postive manner, I think he "grew up" a little faster then I might have expected if I hadn't been pregnant. Yea! for flexibility.<br /><br />A few months before Dio was born, you posted a review of a tamdem nursing book that I later used as reference to bolster up my confidence with the decision to continue to nurse. Thank you for that posting. That posting and being part of a great community of parents that pretty much accepts all styles of families has helped me feel supported and valued as a mother. It is good to hear that you and Zari are still doing great with the nursing relationship as well.Trishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07779672050117432785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-62851996843864272832009-07-10T01:10:58.506-04:002009-07-10T01:10:58.506-04:00thanks for this post. i've been wanting to hea...thanks for this post. i've been wanting to hear moms' experiences with nursing during pregnancy and tandem nursing because i will most likely be getting pregnant while asher is still nursing and would like to continue it. I hope I'll be able to.Katrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16281368864448367942noreply@blogger.com