tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post5063874127619432483..comments2024-03-05T11:36:50.299-05:00Comments on Stand and Deliver: ReadingRixahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07908864785513937876noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-10600260442522332562008-06-07T01:00:00.000-04:002008-06-07T01:00:00.000-04:00I've read Perfect Madness as well and enjoyed it o...I've read Perfect Madness as well and enjoyed it overall (though I disagree with her assertion that attachment parenting is the "dominant parenting style" in our culture right now!).<BR/><BR/>I also have read and enjoyed Blue Jay's Dance. I have several quotes from it in my blog post about it:<BR/><BR/>http://mollyreads.blogspot.com/2007/08/blue-jays-dance.html<BR/><BR/>One of the best, I think, being:<BR/><BR/>"Women are strong, strong, terribly strong. We don't know how strong until we are pushing out our babies. We are too often treated like babies having babies when we should be in training, like acolytes, novices to high priestesshood, like serious applicants for the space program."<BR/><BR/>MollyMollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09403300358334954024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-55655690832855624822008-05-21T18:38:00.000-04:002008-05-21T18:38:00.000-04:00Thanks for the reviews! I want to tell you about ...Thanks for the reviews! I want to tell you about a great book. Parenting Well in the Media Age. It is really well written and easy to read. It reminds me why I limit any screen time for my boys, or if I had girls, them too! <BR/><BR/>I added these books to my reading list!Enjoy Birthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13227246774801636777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-13150426484479289132008-05-20T15:14:00.000-04:002008-05-20T15:14:00.000-04:00I'd love to hear more of your birth book reviews! ...I'd love to hear more of your birth book reviews! I am always looking to add more things to my reading list.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-44878923864489747122008-05-19T20:22:00.000-04:002008-05-19T20:22:00.000-04:00the "weaning your baby from it's other body -- min...the "weaning your baby from it's other body -- mine" is exactly how i've always felt!! i'm buying this book!<BR/><BR/>i've always had that thought of "i understand his crying, he's been held for 9 months. he needs to wean off it, not go cold turkey!"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-82132319121979450232008-05-19T09:31:00.000-04:002008-05-19T09:31:00.000-04:00Thanks for some book suggestions. It's summer and ...Thanks for some book suggestions. It's summer and I've been looking for suggestions.TopHathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03014761105792283513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-16175719828471783992008-05-19T08:03:00.000-04:002008-05-19T08:03:00.000-04:00Oh, couldn't agree more - none of the parents I've...Oh, couldn't agree more - none of the parents I've met who've coslept, practiced extended breastfeeding etc have been *at all* competitive about it - in fact most of them don't even mention it unless you bring it up first - I think it's thought of as so strange by the mainstream that they're mostly scared people will think they're "weird".From the lion's mouthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08269847882599124126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-57031053044602970612008-05-19T00:51:00.000-04:002008-05-19T00:51:00.000-04:00Gosh, I don't look at breastfeeding and cosleeping...Gosh, I don't look at breastfeeding and cosleeping and home birth as me trying to "oneup" the mom next door. I look at them as the easiest alternative in a plethora of choices. Why go to the hospital when it is easier to stay home? Why bother with formula when breastmilk is so cheap, so handy, and so easy to use? Why pad down the hall at night in the dark to nurse a screaming baby when it is so much easier to just roll over and nurse while I go back to sleep?<BR/><BR/>I have very definite ideas about the over-scheduling of children, too. I think if deprives them of their childhood. My children are very unlikely to feel like they missed out on all the fun if I keep them home instead of constantly running to ballet and soccer and baseball and music lessons and... and... and. I would KNOW they'd missed out on something if they couldn't ride their bikes in the warm summer sun, play in the dirt, make mud pies, creat forts in the bushes and let their imaginations run wild. Childhood is supposed to be carefree. How can it be if my kids never have time to sit back, get bored, and create wonderful new adventures out of their heads? That's what childhood really is about. There is a time and a place for the other stuff, but not too early and certainly not all at once.<BR/><BR/>And now I will step back down off my soapbox, but first I will put that book on my to-be-read list. Thanks for the tip.Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16703334707738126703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-69252774299201347952008-05-18T22:41:00.000-04:002008-05-18T22:41:00.000-04:00Yes, Rebekka, it's a fascinating--and scary--glimp...Yes, Rebekka, it's a fascinating--and scary--glimpse into a world that I really haven't been a part of. Well, except for my summer job every year in France, where we work with the kind of children she talks about in her book. <BR/><BR/>I think the author herself cannot let go of the idea that everything is a competition, even as she critiques the idea. Her scornful dismissals of attachment parenting ideas, of breastfeeding, and of natural childbirth/home birth, all arise because she feels they are motivated by a desire for oneupmanship. My experience with families who embrace some or all of those values is that they tend to be very humble, mindful people who are quite far from the competitive, anxious world she describes. We've got to get over the idea that breastfeeding, or home birth, or cosleeping, or whatever, are inherent displays of better-than-thou judgmentalism.Rixahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07908864785513937876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-4085791328508351272008-05-18T22:33:00.000-04:002008-05-18T22:33:00.000-04:00I love the excerpt from The Blue Jay's Dance, that...I love the excerpt from The Blue Jay's Dance, that is going on my "to read" list. Thanks!Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08589450319640171616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-86891496940189358942008-05-18T22:26:00.000-04:002008-05-18T22:26:00.000-04:00I've read Perfect Madness - although there were th...I've read Perfect Madness - although there were things I didn't agree with, I did think she had a definite point about competitiveness, and also about over-scheduling children. <BR/><BR/>I feel sorry for children who have so many activities that they never get to chill out and just be children.From the lion's mouthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08269847882599124126noreply@blogger.com