tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post6159306094336249062..comments2024-03-05T11:36:50.299-05:00Comments on Stand and Deliver: Keep mum and dad, lose the MIL (during labor at least)Rixahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07908864785513937876noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-8617140711630451712008-11-11T15:54:00.000-05:002008-11-11T15:54:00.000-05:00Awesome parents and cool story!Awesome parents and cool story!Housefairyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07158143680987249710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-36788222144517312522008-11-10T13:20:00.000-05:002008-11-10T13:20:00.000-05:00My MIL lives close by and with both our last home ...My MIL lives close by and with both our last home births she didn't get a call from us until after baby was here! lol She was not supportive at all. Had all hers by c-section, didn't breastfeed (and still thinks that's disgusting) and I hate to say this but she's a nurse to boot. I didn't want that negative energy in the room with me. She actually had the gall to say to my dh how "worried" she had been during our last homebirth. (And there was no cause for worry seeing as our first homebirth went off without a hitch.) And where did she say this? In her daughter's hospital room after the very medicalized birth of that daughter's first child, where it was nice and safe, yeah right. Despite her disapproval she still said she wanted to know when I went into labor so she could come over and be there for the birth, and no doubt will again with this baby - fat chance!<BR/>My mother on the other hand who is a worry wart about everything, was surprisingly supportive. But she had two natural births herself (although in the hospital) and didn't think it was something to be scared of. She was present at our last birth and didn't like seeing me "in pain" but wasn't worried at all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-32189213837770145112008-11-10T08:53:00.000-05:002008-11-10T08:53:00.000-05:00my MIL had her NICU friend-who I've NEVER met-call...my MIL had her NICU friend-who I've NEVER met-call us 5 minutes after Rob called them to tell them of Zoe's birth. That's just a bit invasive.Gaias Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10720742155215154346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-64903403975432840802008-11-10T00:12:00.000-05:002008-11-10T00:12:00.000-05:00I totally agree Paula,There was no way my MIL was ...I totally agree Paula,<BR/><BR/>There was no way my MIL was coming, both her kids were caesared, first for breech, second because of the first. So for her birth is a surgical event. She had a lot of fear about us freebirthing.<BR/><BR/>When my partner called to announce our baby's arrival she was more relieved than happy :(<BR/><BR/>I'm very glad I only had people who love and trust birth in my birth space :DSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11025705872272386741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-71115665082328706022008-11-09T20:40:00.000-05:002008-11-09T20:40:00.000-05:00"Giving birth is like shelling peas." Love it!"Giving birth is like shelling peas." Love it!Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17475112158639748154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-44430632967774967662008-11-09T18:59:00.000-05:002008-11-09T18:59:00.000-05:00the very last thing i want to see during transtiti...the very last thing i want to see during transtition is a face full of anxiety. no, i want to open my eyes(if at all) to faces exuberant, reassuring, and patient. my friend asked if she could come in during the birth- she was a very anxious person and was always questioning my desire for a natural birth. i had to politely decline the request. such energy is not needed at a birth.elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05696241309160847537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20642800.post-16909744953961250212008-11-09T17:06:00.000-05:002008-11-09T17:06:00.000-05:00This story actually demonstrates the power of our ...This story actually demonstrates the power of our own experiences to influece our expectations. A woman who has given birth without a lot of medical interventions experiences that as normal and can encourage other women. I'll bet the Romanian mother-in-law had a medicalized hospital birth experience that left her with no sense of a woman's power to birth her own child. My children have all been born in hospitals, but with every one of them I felt and knew that I was birthing this child, everything else was just sort of a necessary annoyance. I am always surprised to hear my friends who went the induction/epidural/episiotomy/maybe c-section route say "oh I could never do that" if I mention more natural birth options. We humans mostly accept as normal whatever is presented to us.Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12409740378011990132noreply@blogger.com