Thursday, March 01, 2007

Musings on Love

The love I have for Zari is unlike anything else. My love for my family members is an undercurrent that never disappears, but it often gets lost beneath the flow of activities and wildly different personalities jumbled together. With my husband, my love takes on changing forms. Of course there’s romantic love. It’s important but certainly not the foundation of a marriage, as movies make it out to be. Sometimes it’s a deep sense of friendship and camaraderie. I notice this most when we’re working on a project together: perhaps repainting our guest cottage or assembling an oil filtration system for our Greasecar. At other times it’s a raw sharing of our innermost selves. Occasionally our love manifests itself as irritation or annoyance when we try to imprint our wills too strongly on the other person.

With Zari, I just love her. Deeply and simply. To say “I feel love for her” is inaccurate. When we feel something, it implies that there is an object outside or separate from ourselves: I feel the wind on my face. My love for Zari is unlike any other. I don’t have to work on it, like I do with my family. It doesn’t take on changing forms, as with my husband. It just is. It always will be. That love cannot be separated from my existence.

Our physical link began to end when we cut her cord 2 ½ hours after she was born. As long as she nurses, we will not have severed those ties completely. But the love I hold for her—the love that is part of me, that is me—will forever keep me bound to her.

7 comments:

  1. This is a very special feeling of love that you have written about.Blessed is your lil Zari to receive that from you.God Bless.Emmie

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  2. *sighs wistfully*

    I don't think any words could ever do justice to the kind of love we mamas feel for our babies. But you came pretty damn close. :)

    -Jill

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  3. My first little girl is now 15 and obviously she isn't nursing and she goes out into the world to live her own life but I still have that same connection with her. I agree it isn't something to feel it just IS. I can still grab her and hold her and experience that same flood of love as when she was a baby. It is much more work now as she is her own person and we have to negotiate our relationship like never before but the connection stays strong.
    Wendi

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  4. Great post.

    It's amazing how powerful motherly love is.

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  5. You will always have a physical link with her... Your DNA!

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  6. Thank you for expressing this most tender and deep emotion so clearly. Zari is very blessed to have you.

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